Wedding dresses are so important to a bride that they can truly make or break a wedding experience. I mean there is a whole show about it on TLC. So what makes a dress the perfect dress and what makes it less than perfect?
Kleinfeld’s has it right when they say the first order of business is to please the bride. If a bride puts on a dress and it instantly makes her feel giddy, weepy, beautiful, better than ever…well good luck changing her mind. The downside…trying on a dress in a beautiful dressing room with all of your supporters telling you how fantastic you look is not the same as really seeing your dress in the moment. You sometimes hear the assistants discuss the season, and maybe if it is outdoor or indoor, but rarely do you hear much more than that. Now this could be simple editing to fit the show into its half hour slot, but it is a great disservice to brides not to make this a selling point!
As a wedding designer I understand the concept of blending all of the elements into one cohesive function. Although a wedding dress is not the only element in a wedding it is one of the most important. Remember all eyes are trained to come back to that dress. The bride is the “Center” of that event and rightly attendees will continue to watch and react to her. That being said…if the venue does not compliment or complete the dress than the overall event may appear choppy and disjointed in its theme. This doesn’t mean your dress has to be matchy, matchy. It just means you shouldn’t completely clash in style and/or color. A church wedding, as opposed to a beach wedding, as opposed to a ballroom wedding…all of these elements should be considered when choosing your dress.
Recently online, I observed photos from a wedding where a bride was wearing a very vintage conservative dress. It was amazing and beautiful. Upon further examination I began to notice that the design concept of the wedding was very modern. With sharp angles and dark cold colors. Now this wedding theme/design has become a popular look. One of the most popular combinations in the past couple of years has been black, red, and white, but these colors do not, I repeat do not go well with a vintage, conservative, lacey dress. The theme of the wedding completely overshadowed the dress and the bride looked lost and out of place in the photos.
The same goes for your bridal party. Don’t put your attendants in purple dresses if your celebration is going to be in a room that has large dark red accents in a patterned carpet. Watch for clashing colors and patterns. Know your venue, or at least make sure your wedding designer knows your venue. Take pictures. Watch colors, shapes, lighting…every element to make sure they all work well together. At the end of the day you may not even notice that they all blended so well, but believe me, if you don’t work to make sure they do, when you get your videos and/or photos back. You will notice that something is not right, and remember you don’t get a “Do-Over.”